Father of Mine – What a Paternally Outsourced Daughter Learns From Men She Meets Later In Life

I want to preface this post with a completely unsentimental, but absolutely apropos quote from Anne Lamott:

2cd14cc097854fd6e645171ce05b6357This isn’t going to start out well. The warm, fuzzy appreciative part comes at the end.

My parents were young when I was born, barely into their twenties and living on the cusp of the 1970’s.  On the surface, they had a lot in common, both bright, intelligent and from large, close knit Roman Catholic families. It was the underneath of their relationship that held all the cracks and flaws that would eventually pull them apart.  If I had to guess now, as an adult, what finally did break things, I’d have to say it a matter of priorities.  My mother’s were to her young family and her marriage. My father’s were simply not. I was three and my sister was newly born when things finally hit critical mass between my mother and father. It’s funny the things you remember: Continue reading

Girl Talk – Welcome To The World of Women, Caitlyn (Bruce) Jenner.

Big news today, right?

While this is about the unveiling of the new Caitlyn Jenner, I just want to take a minute to address the people giving Drake Bell a hard time about his Tweets.

a) Bruce Jenner was a sports icon. He was EVERYWHERE after he gold medaled at the Olympics in the 1970’s. His choice to become a woman has been shocking to some of us who remember him as a glowing hero on a Wheaties box.  I understand that the older, (non-Kardashian) Jenner children are planning to do what they can to preserve their father’s legacy, and I think that’s a wonderful thing to do. Bruce Jenner was a legend in his time, and I think many athletes should continue to be inspired by his accomplishments.

This is the Bruce Jenner I remember.

This is the Bruce Jenner I remember.

b) Drake Bell is entitled to his opinion on the subject. We live in a Freedom of Speech country, and guess what? Not everyone needs, wants or has to be politically correct. Gasp, horror! Plus, as I recall, Mr. Bell is known for his funny posts on Twitter. Funny people sometimes say the TRUE thing in order to shock and get a reaction.

c) If someone, ANYONE, makes such a drastic change to themselves, IN THE PUBLIC EYE, people are going to comment and that is part of the deal. I seriously doubt the new Ms. Jenner even cares what Drake Bell thinks.  I will say this: Annie Leibovitz can photograph ANYONE and make them look amazing.

Photo from the upcoming Vanity Fair article. Don't think she's giving Drake Bell much thought.

Photo from the upcoming Vanity Fair article. Don’t think she’s giving Drake Bell much thought.

So, with that covered, I have some thoughts about this whole thing myself… Continue reading